So what is independence then ?

In my earlier post, I had some thoughts on Freedom. Do we need to be independent ? then for how long ? now this question hovers around my head. We feel and like to be independent, so that we can take our life of our own but we are always given more than we expect from our parents, even if we need to leave our place and move on with our career, its always parents take the lead and arrange all the stuffs for us, so does this means we don’t know how to do it or is it we yet to learn those stuffs?  Even on marriage, its parents decision on whom to marry. So, later down the line, they would still have some say on our life on how to respond on certain situations, and we would love to share our thoughts on new stuffs with them, say if we need to buy a house of our own we would ask their opinion. So what is Independence then ?

Now the major question which is haunting me is, if parents feel they want to be independent of their own, since we have accepted lot of their decisions in our life, they would always like to be of their own.  Now lets say their son and daughter move to a new place in search of career, now in return if son or daughter feels to have them with them, does that mean they aren’t allowing them to be independent ? The question doesn’t stop here, there is an unusual problem in our country, parents always think even if they need to be with their daughter or son, they would prefer to be with their son than daughter. why is that happens ? Why they feel when daughter gets married she now needs to be with their son in laws family, and she should constantly think about that family. Even when their daughter feels like to have them at her place, she is constantly blamed by her in laws, so where is the freedom then for her ?

My question doesn’t stop here. If parents wants to be independent and their children are no more with them, they are searching their career or got married, now parents feel they no longer need their house so they sell them and with the remaining cash they feel like settling down where ever they feel comfortable, even if its an old age home. Now the taboo in our culture is if parents are in the old age home then their children are cursed. What can a child do here ? If parents chooses to spend their days along with their same aged people with left over cash they have, and now for the society if we force them to stay with us, aren’t we coming in their way, their freedom ?

So when is the time we be independent ? is it when we become a parent ?

What is Freedom then ?

What is freedom? This question keeps haunting me always, actually I would tell we don’t enjoy the fullest freedom. This line just tells the truth of our lives “Man can do what he wants, but not want what he wants“. We have the power to achieve what we want, but we don’t dare to do it. Not convinced ? You may have great interest to go on a trekking today, suddenly you feel this urge to do, you know this will be the best thing to do today, your place is gifted with a good trekking spot, you have all the access to get to that place, well connected with train or bus,  now do you have this FREEDOM to go to that place today ? Now you see those obstacles coming in your way, No money to buy tickets or You don’t get your leave granted at your workplace or what should you tell to your family – any reason for this trekking ? Fine you have all the access now, got money, got leave and got your family convinced, now still there are so many obstacles coming on your way, though you belong to this mother earth you don’t have the freedom to move to any place you like, still confined to the book called as passport and visa.You need to tell to every damn guy coming on your way why are you going to this mountain, is this called freedom ?

You just feel like going and relaxing, but with this so called social entanglements we are bound to keep our interests to ourselves like a unfulfilled dream.

Life at its best

Humans have a great feeling of their life, when they are in their death bed – It seems !! Most of the people who met with an accident and luckily survives, they seem to be in a state of enlightenment. Most of the stories are on this topic. People want their rest of their lives to be in harmony with their loved ones or everything. Same way for me, it wasn’t any big life threatening accident, but it definitely helped and helping me to attain some kind of enlightenment.

Now I am seeing this life, my body as whole new thing, this is such a great and marvelous creation, I don’t know who has created but whoever it is, its something astonishing.  So now I understood the power of water, its truly an “elixir of life” . This life has thought me a great lesson from this. I was about to leave my body and work for my mind and now I can sense this cant happen. we need the coordination, unless and until you do that, you can’t have the balanced physical and mental stamina to perform those actions. My work took lot of physical time, so the concentration on my physical body was not much, so this disturbance created lots of problem to my physical body which in return caused serious trouble to my mental state.

Major time we spend our life in our workplace, if we forget about the coordination then there is no point in spending lot of time there.  We keep running around finding and searching our career. We want our careers to be at its best, so for the rest of the life we can have enough cash for spending time with our families and friends, but during this process we hardly see this reality-, if we are not in proper physical health, then how will we have good time with our families and friends during the later stages of the life ? In one of the movie the hero tells the youth to concentrate on your body than spending time on alcohol, drugs etc, that’s actually a very good point to the society through this medium, but the response will be at minimum.  But the negative meaning will be passed from one person to another like a wild fire.

So coordination of mind and body should happen in a proper way and that too from younger age ( its always difficult to change the habit at 60, if we ignore it at 6 ) . Recently I read a book, which to my surprise, it had the same topic and the author gave an answer to this question, the best way to keep the mind and the body in coordination, can only happen through the Yoga and meditation.

My point here is, please look at your body as a gift of nature and don’t insult the nature by killing your own body in installments. Nehru told, if you don’t take care of your own body then your doing a great sin. Great example is Mr Basu, at 80’s his body guards used to  run to follow him, he was that quick in walking. In this race of economy we fail to understand the importance of our body, only with money and power we can’t survive we need our physical body to be at its best so that our life can have a better meaning. So this 2010 can we see some changes in our physical activities ? Life is always at its best

School Idea – 1

Feeling really pity when I look at my younger brother carrying those huge burden in his back, yeah I am talking about his school-Bag. I asked him, what does he carry in his huge bag, he innocently told, its all those books which is needed for today’s classes.  From his calculation I came to know that, he is carrying on an average of 3 to 4 books for 1 class and in a day he has 8 classes, so in minimum its around 20 books and he is studying in his 3rd.

Not every child in this place has the convenience to come to school in private vehicles or school vans ( they do charge for pick up & Drop ) they are now forced to carry such a heavy load on their back. My brother when he walks back from his school to home, when I see him, it looks like he is looking at his shoes and walking, the weight is so much he is forced to transfer certain weight by bending downwards. When he reached home, the first thing he does is to throw that heavy bag and only then he can remove his shoes.

There are lot of changes in the subjects and the syllabus now, but the weight carried by the students remains the same or more. There are so many reforms coming up, why not do something to change this? My suggestion is to have a locker facility in each class and school should provide the notebooks and the text books to the students when they are at the school and students should have their notebooks and text books at home, so by this when student is back home, he/she can use their textbooks and note books for revision and study purpose and when they are at school they can use schools property. Each student should be assigned to one locker and their notebooks and textbooks should be kept there. Students can have note books for each class, say 8 notebooks in the bag ( better than 24 to 30 ) to take notes in the class and bring it back home for revision.

This is just an idea, there can be more better ideas out there. We need to use them in order to have a strong backbone to our society Children are our backbones aren’t they ?

No! I dont think “Alike” !!!

Really, I am taken by surprise today after a small chit chat with my neighbor named, hmm lets keep it as “J” . He is in his 3rd and already he has some take on life, which he thinks “Cool”. We started our chat

Me: : Hey, aren’t you playing with them, you like cricket don’t you ?

J: Yeah, I like to play, but you see they are grown ups and they don’t take me..

Me: OK, what about your friends, aren’t they coming now to play with you ?

J: No, they will come only in the evenings

Then suddenly he remembers something and asked me, ” What is those children doing in your terrace on evenings ? ( my aunt takes tuition to some children at evenings )

Me: That’s tuition, they come to study.

J: Do you take that ?

Me: No, my aunt, she is interested in that.

Then all of sudden he got one more question to ask, ” What is your age ?”

Me: I told mine

J: So now you should be Choosing your girl, aren’t you ?

Me: Why do you ask this ?

J: Yeah ! That’s the age to choose your girl, whom you think you will marry.

Me: So, are you interested in Marriage ?

J: ME !! ??? No way, I need to lot of things b4 I get married.

It was a simple talk, but lots to be learned out of this.. First we should be aware that, we are not anymore in so called slow generation, we are marching forward with full speed entering the world with so many types of people. There were so many people who would think alike, but now there are so many people who think differently.

Actually we are in the middle of the battle, we are surrounded by the people who were “thinking alike” and those “think differently”, there are exception to every rule, there were so many thinkers who would think out of box even during those era where every body were thinking alike. They fought, they raised their voice, they supported their type people, but at the end they couldn’t raise their voice beyond certain boundaries.

I can’t take some beliefs which were followed from ages without questioning, I need an answer for it. In our community, we wont do the regular pooja which we do every morning, if there is any death in our family. Are we now against “God” or are we on strike ? Ok, if this is some bad thing happened to our family, then why don’t we do this pooja on even if there is any birth in our family ? Again we are on leave for 10 days … Now is this strike for good things happened to your family ? I don’t get the meaning behind this… Like this there are thousand things, which cant be answered but are followed.

I am not able to question them, since I am surrounded with those “alike thinkers”, I need a break now. I can’t take this. Though, we say ” untouchable”  is sin and now we don’t have them anymore, still I see this happening in a community in Mangalore, who call themselves as the proud ones or those who are also called as brahmins. These Tulu speaking people offer lot of homa’s and pooja’s for their own well being, and offer a good lunch or dinner following the ritual, but they don’t allow any “other” cast people to sit along with them and have the food. I have also witnessed it. The boy is asked to get up from the row and asked to come after these people had their food. Isn’t this also an act of Un-touch-ability ?

Still we are way behind doing all this spiritual things, which doesn’t needs any more growth. Its grown to its heights, please stop them. I am seeing them coming down slowly in cities, but I don’t know whats happening there in villages ? Still there are so many groups fighting for their caste and religion, everyone is brainwashed with this name called “Religion” and “God” . Or else why should  group of guys get agitated when Mr. Sachin told he is an Indian ? Still there should be lot of thoughts passed on to this.. will continue..

Another way to look at the world !

You can ask me, why do your post is always on ” Life ” why not something else ? But, I am really fascinated with my life. It comes with new challenges and opportunities, so I always see my life as ” Mysterious One ” . I have tried and trying lots of new stuffs everyday, thinking something would come out of it. I can give some examples like, I never used to read books as such, every rule has an exemption so I used to “Study” rather “Read” my school text books. Now a Days, I see my hands holding new book each day, I am loving to read, even if its just a newspaper, I see it in a different paradigm now. Same way, I used to like photography but now especially today, I am loving it more. May be I will be using this hobby in more serious way. Somethings which I have never ever thought in my life is all coming to me now. I am loved by an angel, I am taken care by them, I am respected for what I am.

Do your commitments with dedication and love, the consequences of it will be like a scarecrow for fools and beacons for wise people. I have no regrets in my life now, I see it with great confidence and purity. I was constantly bogged down looking at my academics, but now I am not worried of it anymore. I know what I have learned in my practical life, I never saw them in school/college text books. I am great full for my angel who is constantly pushing me forward to do lots of new things, which I never used to think of.

I am sure, you will find the angel of your life in the right moment, never get bogged down due to the passing problems, face them with courage . After life is a Journey with a good experiences. Do pass on your take on life, I would love to  experience them.

Divide and Rule !!

Adding many states, is this really a needed one ? This question always peeps in my mind whenever I read the newspaper, since its always in the heading.. Telangana and all those Rao’s fasting or acting like fasting or whatever it means. Some 90+ MLA’s have already resigned and the speaker gets continuous resignation letters. Now even the speaker is thinking on resigning or I dont know if Mr. Kiran Kumar Reddy is already resigned.

I also read the news that, there is a severe shortage of food supply to the state since all the means of transportation is on halt. Moreover, always crowded Tirupati Devasthanam is completely crowd-less . Many outstation people are stuck , dont know what to do. Why this hungama all around ? Why can’t we be united ? No stop giving some lame reasons like, smaller the states more well its governed. Its not only the size of the state matters, its also those stupid religious issues matters the most. You need a separate state not just because it can be easily monitored or administered, since your so called religious group stay in that particular area, you need a separate state now. So that you can always win the election or you can always have your own mother tongue and keep uplifting only your community. Why  partiality to Telengana why not to Gorkhaland ? Gorkhas are been in this fight for so many years, but their request is not fulfilled, why only for Telengana ?

Some states or part of the states needs importance, if they are really backward, if there is no basic necessities or people are totally ignored, no economic development, then there is really a need to re look at the state level administration, like how these Gorkhas are facing problems. If a place like Hyderabad needs to be separated, I don’t know for what reason? Now almost entire states in India needs to be separated from their home states. Everyone needs a new state, TamilNadu needs a Vanniyar community state, Karnataka needs a separate state in north separating itself from Bangalore, Uttarpradesh needs Poorvanchal, Harit pradesh and Bundalkhand.

So whats the point behind this, is this only for development of India or for “their” own personal wish fulfillment ? What ever is the reason behind, I think we should think about other stuffs which are haunting us like economic development, Global warming, Education in India and so many other quality stuffs

Wish to hear some great reviews on this topic, please pour your comments, lets brainstorm this x mas

World at its best – But save now !!

There is lot of talks happening at Copenhagen, are we listening to them ? or is anything happening there, few may ask. I would say, more than Copenhagen it should happen at every place, starting from your home. We first need to come out of our ego, that its not only our world there are few others sharing it with us.

Some simple things can change lot of things, we cant see the change unless we change ourselves. This idea of walking came into me few days back and now I am following it very strictly. I agree, this walking dint start on this purpose but now as I am aware of so many things on global warming and its effects, I have started to see the change in me in order to see the change in others. You too can feel the difference when you start walking for the nearby stores or for a radius of 2 kms to 3kms which will save a lot of fuel and carbon emission not only that you can stay fit

Thanks to energy efficient appliances, try using them they make wonders in energy consumption, I have already planned to change my old time tube lights which would roughly consume 40 to 50 watts of electricity to some LED kind of lights which has the same power but which would use 6 watts to 16 watts. There are more better ideas like using CFL ( Compact Fluorescent Lamp) but it would cost little bit extra but worth it !

I am lucky in one way to have my mom at home, she keeps telling me to switch off the fan or lights when not used , if you don’t have anyone at home to remind you about this, now start to put this in your “things to do” list immediately. It saves more electricity than you imagine, you know it can light up a whole village.  I think,  Chennites shouldn’t worry about lights at morning, we always have sun shining on us I always recommend to shake hands with nature and get along with it.

Investing in alternative energy is always better and safe way to live. Think of solar powered heaters, solar powered lights and much more. There are plenty of solar powered appliances, start investing on it than on some hi tech music system or running 3 to 4 air conditioners together.

We have started this war against nature, now we are facing serious threats. Now we should act cleverly. Its easier to destroy this planet but think what will happen to our younger generation or the generations yet to come ? What wrong have they done to us or to this very planet ? Not only to human race, there are so many animals gone extinct because of this.  A lot of things can happen, summers getting longer, Crops getting damaged due to sudden change in weather, Earths atmosphere is getting more un-predictable by more rains at some places and lots more like melting of ice and rivers overflowing etc..

we need  to think seriously, we need to get united and face this than saying,” hey! this is not for us”, some big people are talking something at Copenhagen and they would come up with some solutions. If we don’t co-operate with those leaders then how can they bring some solutions? Just think about it… a food for thought

Life – is it a mysterious one ?

I call life as a mysterious one, each time I step into something, life teaches me a lesson out of it. Some people like the way it teaches, but some say its really a bad teacher. I fall into the first group of people who like the lessons. Its hard to digest, but at the end there is always something really nice to look upon.  People do say, when one door closes another one should open,  but at the first place why is it closing? this mysterious question is always unanswered.  So is this the law of nature? negatives and positives ? Matter and Anti matter ? Protons and anti protons

Present state of my life is revolving in same direction, sometimes it like my door has opened, after few months I feel that door has a very short passage way where I need to re look on the next door. I am finding these doors a lot of time in my journey of life. So are there many positives and negatives revolving around me ? or simply my life is taking hair-pin bends a lot of time ? The door which I am looking at right now, I suppose it has a good passage way where I don’t have to look for any more doors – hoping..

But what may happen, I am enjoying this life, there are lots of things that are yet to be seen by me, I am ready to face them… wow, it feels great to write after a long gap..Hope I don’t stop from now on..

Life has its own meaning !

This is an extraordinary feeling after enjoying your holidays and going back to work with full josh and also with more rejuvenated mind. I was craving for such a break for long time, I was surrounded with lots of distractions and with some  career problems. My career was going haywire, and I dint know what I was doing. I am person with positive attitude, may be this helped me. I always think, that if some door is closed another would open. This has proved right to me. I was forced to take up a role which I dint like, but was sticking to it for almost 2 years, during that time I could able to work on my strengths and weaknesses, thanks to my close friend and mentor. That’s the only good thing happened to me in that organization. Though your in bad position/situation there are some good/positive things happening around you, try to look at them and grab them.

In an organization senior management dint bother about the career of junior executives who believed that their future is depended on that company.  So company producing loses dint bothered them, few sensed the alarm and quit. Since they were already in the senior management position and with lots of experience they could easily get another job or even they could start a company. We the junior team, were struggling. Dint knew what to do, my suggestions to develop that company was waste of time, it was not given any recognition and I could see the danger signal in front of me. Asking me, what am I going to do ? Then I was thinking on the door which would soon open for me, since this door is about to close. I could see no bright light ahead from this door. Now I am so happy that, I got an offer which I dint expect at all. That too, in one of  my favorite subject, Marketing. The timing was perfect, I got this offer in the right time. So again, I am satisfied that, the theory what I am following is absolutely perfect. We just need to think Positively, and everything would happen for a reason.

I am feeling rejuvenated after the Yercaud trip. I would definitely suggest a holiday at least once in  4 months. It could be even a short week end trip, I am sure that would help you to re energies your whole body along with your mind.  I feel this city life is so boring, not only because it spoils ones health, but also we don;t get to enjoy the nature. We are so obsessed with work, that we don;t give ourselves the time, where we can enjoy the scenic beauty of mother earth. Just for an example, the place I stay has lots of important and nice spots which could be enjoyed, but I never realized it. Dint bother to take a tour. But this holiday I promised myself to go to all the places, which I dint visit and now I am really happy that as promised I have covered almost all the places and I feel really rejuvenated.

I am loving it !