Archive for January, 2010

So what is independence then ?

In my earlier post, I had some thoughts on Freedom. Do we need to be independent ? then for how long ? now this question hovers around my head. We feel and like to be independent, so that we can take our life of our own but we are always given more than we expect from our parents, even if we need to leave our place and move on with our career, its always parents take the lead and arrange all the stuffs for us, so does this means we don’t know how to do it or is it we yet to learn those stuffs?  Even on marriage, its parents decision on whom to marry. So, later down the line, they would still have some say on our life on how to respond on certain situations, and we would love to share our thoughts on new stuffs with them, say if we need to buy a house of our own we would ask their opinion. So what is Independence then ?

Now the major question which is haunting me is, if parents feel they want to be independent of their own, since we have accepted lot of their decisions in our life, they would always like to be of their own.  Now lets say their son and daughter move to a new place in search of career, now in return if son or daughter feels to have them with them, does that mean they aren’t allowing them to be independent ? The question doesn’t stop here, there is an unusual problem in our country, parents always think even if they need to be with their daughter or son, they would prefer to be with their son than daughter. why is that happens ? Why they feel when daughter gets married she now needs to be with their son in laws family, and she should constantly think about that family. Even when their daughter feels like to have them at her place, she is constantly blamed by her in laws, so where is the freedom then for her ?

My question doesn’t stop here. If parents wants to be independent and their children are no more with them, they are searching their career or got married, now parents feel they no longer need their house so they sell them and with the remaining cash they feel like settling down where ever they feel comfortable, even if its an old age home. Now the taboo in our culture is if parents are in the old age home then their children are cursed. What can a child do here ? If parents chooses to spend their days along with their same aged people with left over cash they have, and now for the society if we force them to stay with us, aren’t we coming in their way, their freedom ?

So when is the time we be independent ? is it when we become a parent ?


What is Freedom then ?

What is freedom? This question keeps haunting me always, actually I would tell we don’t enjoy the fullest freedom. This line just tells the truth of our lives “Man can do what he wants, but not want what he wants“. We have the power to achieve what we want, but we don’t dare to do it. Not convinced ? You may have great interest to go on a trekking today, suddenly you feel this urge to do, you know this will be the best thing to do today, your place is gifted with a good trekking spot, you have all the access to get to that place, well connected with train or bus,  now do you have this FREEDOM to go to that place today ? Now you see those obstacles coming in your way, No money to buy tickets or You don’t get your leave granted at your workplace or what should you tell to your family – any reason for this trekking ? Fine you have all the access now, got money, got leave and got your family convinced, now still there are so many obstacles coming on your way, though you belong to this mother earth you don’t have the freedom to move to any place you like, still confined to the book called as passport and visa.You need to tell to every damn guy coming on your way why are you going to this mountain, is this called freedom ?

You just feel like going and relaxing, but with this so called social entanglements we are bound to keep our interests to ourselves like a unfulfilled dream.

Life at its best

Humans have a great feeling of their life, when they are in their death bed – It seems !! Most of the people who met with an accident and luckily survives, they seem to be in a state of enlightenment. Most of the stories are on this topic. People want their rest of their lives to be in harmony with their loved ones or everything. Same way for me, it wasn’t any big life threatening accident, but it definitely helped and helping me to attain some kind of enlightenment.

Now I am seeing this life, my body as whole new thing, this is such a great and marvelous creation, I don’t know who has created but whoever it is, its something astonishing.  So now I understood the power of water, its truly an “elixir of life” . This life has thought me a great lesson from this. I was about to leave my body and work for my mind and now I can sense this cant happen. we need the coordination, unless and until you do that, you can’t have the balanced physical and mental stamina to perform those actions. My work took lot of physical time, so the concentration on my physical body was not much, so this disturbance created lots of problem to my physical body which in return caused serious trouble to my mental state.

Major time we spend our life in our workplace, if we forget about the coordination then there is no point in spending lot of time there.  We keep running around finding and searching our career. We want our careers to be at its best, so for the rest of the life we can have enough cash for spending time with our families and friends, but during this process we hardly see this reality-, if we are not in proper physical health, then how will we have good time with our families and friends during the later stages of the life ? In one of the movie the hero tells the youth to concentrate on your body than spending time on alcohol, drugs etc, that’s actually a very good point to the society through this medium, but the response will be at minimum.  But the negative meaning will be passed from one person to another like a wild fire.

So coordination of mind and body should happen in a proper way and that too from younger age ( its always difficult to change the habit at 60, if we ignore it at 6 ) . Recently I read a book, which to my surprise, it had the same topic and the author gave an answer to this question, the best way to keep the mind and the body in coordination, can only happen through the Yoga and meditation.

My point here is, please look at your body as a gift of nature and don’t insult the nature by killing your own body in installments. Nehru told, if you don’t take care of your own body then your doing a great sin. Great example is Mr Basu, at 80’s his body guards used to  run to follow him, he was that quick in walking. In this race of economy we fail to understand the importance of our body, only with money and power we can’t survive we need our physical body to be at its best so that our life can have a better meaning. So this 2010 can we see some changes in our physical activities ? Life is always at its best 🙂

School Idea – 1

Feeling really pity when I look at my younger brother carrying those huge burden in his back, yeah I am talking about his school-Bag. I asked him, what does he carry in his huge bag, he innocently told, its all those books which is needed for today’s classes.  From his calculation I came to know that, he is carrying on an average of 3 to 4 books for 1 class and in a day he has 8 classes, so in minimum its around 20 books and he is studying in his 3rd.

Not every child in this place has the convenience to come to school in private vehicles or school vans ( they do charge for pick up & Drop ) they are now forced to carry such a heavy load on their back. My brother when he walks back from his school to home, when I see him, it looks like he is looking at his shoes and walking, the weight is so much he is forced to transfer certain weight by bending downwards. When he reached home, the first thing he does is to throw that heavy bag and only then he can remove his shoes.

There are lot of changes in the subjects and the syllabus now, but the weight carried by the students remains the same or more. There are so many reforms coming up, why not do something to change this? My suggestion is to have a locker facility in each class and school should provide the notebooks and the text books to the students when they are at the school and students should have their notebooks and text books at home, so by this when student is back home, he/she can use their textbooks and note books for revision and study purpose and when they are at school they can use schools property. Each student should be assigned to one locker and their notebooks and textbooks should be kept there. Students can have note books for each class, say 8 notebooks in the bag ( better than 24 to 30 ) to take notes in the class and bring it back home for revision.

This is just an idea, there can be more better ideas out there. We need to use them in order to have a strong backbone to our society 😀 Children are our backbones aren’t they ?